A lady has lamented over her mother’s consent who supports her sister for being pregnant for her husband.
Hear her:
I married Femi the love of my life early 2017. Before we married I and Femi agreed that we were going to get a house help who would help with house chores and cooking because we both leave home 5am and come back around 8pm although sometimes I come back later than usual.
My husband was comfortable with all this after the marriage until my mum came to visit us and then she discovered that I don’t cook and take care of other house chores. She complained bitterly and my husband who had never had issues with me not cooking started to feel uncomfortable with Bisi who was helping with cooking and other house chores. The first thing my mother achieved was kicking Bisi out of the house. We all agreed that she would come, cook, clean up the house and leave rather than stay with us.
After a while Bisi left and my husband advised that we allow my younger sister stay with us since my mother would not have issues with that and she just finished university and would be less busy for a while before she goes for her NYSC. I was happy with this arrangement because anytime Nifemi visits our home, she makes me focus on other aspect while she takes care of the home.
Two months after my younger sister packed to our home, I got transferred to Abuja from work. Meanwhile, we have been struggling with child bearing. We went to several doctors and experts but they could not find anything wrong in both myself and my husband. My mum was becoming impatient but my husband always comforted me, saying Gods time is the best.
Usually I come back home every weekend to see my husband and I go back Monday morning but after a while my husband advised that I make my visit once in two weeks since we do video call every day. I wasn’t suspicious until I came back home one day and I noticed that someone was sharing our marital room with my husband.
I called my sister to confirm if my suspicion was right but she said no one was sleeping in the house asides my husband and herself. I also asked my neighbors and they said they did not notice anything suspicious.
Two months later, I came back home as usual and my sister wasn’t around. I asked for her whereabout and I was told she was in Enugu for NYSC. I was surprised because she never called me to inform me that she would be going for NYSC at that time. I called her angrily but she refused to pick my call. The next day, I went to my mum’s house to complain and lo and behold, I saw my sister in the sitting room. I was shocked because I discovered that my sister was pregnant and my mother and husband were both aware.
What shocked me was the fact that my husband who is a disciplinarian would have complained if the pregnancy was from another person. This was when I became suspicious. I asked for the person who was responsible for the pregnancy and I was told it was for someone who rejected it. I asked why I wasn’t told and they said it was because they were scared of how I would react when I hear.
Because of the love and trust I had for my husband, I believed him and went back to Abuja. My life went back to normal until I received a call from a family friend yesterday night that my husband is the person responsible for my sister’s pregnancy and he is telling me because his conscience wouldn’t let him rest since I have been good to their family.
Immediately I called my husband and confronted him. He wanted to deny it at first but with everything I said there was nowhere to hide. He admitted that he was responsible for the pregnancy and he was ready to marry my sister because she has been playing the role of a wife in his life for the past 7 months. He also said since we have no child in the marriage, I should allow him marry my sister who right now is the love of his life.
During this period, I also discovered that my mother is aware and has given them the permission to go ahead. I have not been able to access my sister and my mother to hear their side of the story because they have cut all form of communication. I really don’t know how I got this all wrong but I am beginning to feel that I put my career over my marriage.
I am in pains and I don’t know what to do.
